I am a very lucky man – I’ve got an amazing wife and am the father to three wonderful kids. Lylli was born on Halloween in 2008, Gracie was born November 2010 and although she only lived for 17 months, she will remain as much a part of this family as the rest of us, and Mickey Gray, our first son, was born in June of 2012. I’m not going to say that life has gone exactly as I would have wanted, but it is a good life and I am determined to make the best of it.

This blog is an attempt to document my quest to become a dad that my family can be proud of.

Thursday, August 25, 2011

Accountability - Time to Finally Match my Actions to my Words

Last week, Ben Davis of the Do Life Movement featured me and this blog in one of his posts (HERE).  Because of that, many people have recently visited for the first time.  He also mentioned in an interview (HERE) that Gracie’s story and my desire to get healthy because of it was one of the most memorable stories that he heard on his 30 city “Do Life” tour this summer.  What a wonderful honor.   As I look back on this blog since its inception trying to see it through the eyes of someone that is visiting for the first time, I am forced to admit what I’ve really been struggling with lately - that I have been mostly just talk for many years.  The very first post from this blog I talk about how I’m going to get healthy.  That was in early December of 2008.  Countless posts since then talk about how I need to do something, but here I sit today basically in the same place.  That said, I follow two blogs religiously – one is Ben’s referenced above, bendoeslife,  and the other is a blog by Travis Colby called finally airborne .  Both of these guys started their blogs at the beginning of their journey to get healthy, both started them after I started mine.  Since that time, both of them have lost over 100 lbs, both have finished multiple marathons.  As a matter of fact, Ben has completed two ironman’s and Travis is training to complete one early next year.  Both of these guys were bigger than me and are now Ironmen.  Two nights ago, it took me almost an hour to run/walk 3.5 miles - every single run is a struggle, but it was for them at first as well – I’ve got a long way to go, but am done living like I'm OK with where I’m at, because I’m not – I can look back at posts on this site and clearly see that.  I started this blog to keep me honest and to make me accountable, an attempt to make my actions match my words, and have somehow avoided it while still being able to look people in the eyes.  This really is the turning point in my life – Our journey with Gracie has forced me to see things in a different perspective and from now on my actions will match my words.  I am done being all talk.  I am going to continue to “Do Life” and become that happy healthy husband/dad/person that my family/I deserve(s). 


  1. Well said. You have the desire and the motivation to get it done and I know you will accomplish your goals. Those of us who have changed (even Ben) have all tried numerous times and didn't get anywhere. When I started my blog in January of 2010, that wasn't the first time I said I was going to get in shape. Don't let the past get to you and you can truly accomplish everything you want to and more.

    By the way, the offer still stands. I'll come out to your big run and pace with you if you want.


  2. Praying for you. Lean on the Lord. You have a beautiful family and I believe you have what it takes to get where you need/want to be.
    Don't look back, only forward.
    I appreciate your ownership and honesty of where you are.
    So many of us are going through the same.

  3. Life is certainly a journey. Keep on keepin' on and you will get there.

  4. I am incredibly impressed by your commitment. The courage to start is the most difficult thing ever, because you know you have so far to go and when we're bigger, we're not pretty doing it. You will be so good someday! I can't wait to read more. Keep moving, and Do Life!

  5. You can do it! Don't be discouraged by your past...only look forward.